I know I haven’t written in while so I figured I’d bring you all a quick one, how about doing things for you?
Honestly, this one’s a tale as old as time. For as long as we have existed human beings have craved approval. And yes I mean approval from friends and family, popularity, and essentially some form of success that is dictated not by your own, but someone else’s idea of what success should look like.
Let’s take a moment to think about this.
I find that the older I get the more I realise that I often make decisions based on either what everyone else thinks or what I think everyone else thinks. I mean, this morning I considered three different outfits to wear to school and when I had finally settled on one, I thought about changing it again because I couldn’t decide if it would look good enough to everyone else. Still, approval doesn’t solely come in terms of what people think of our appearance but what people think about our personality, our career choices, and pretty much our entire lifestyle.
I mean, I know a lot of times when I’m having conversations with people I analyze the way they respond to me and their body language while they do it. I think thoughts like “am I being to quiet?” or “am I being too loud?” I think “am I smiling too much?” or “am I not smiling enough?”
I mean, I’m not saying it’s completely horrible to think about other people’s opinions, in fact, I think considering what other people will think is important to some extent. However, I believe the issue is that sometimes we feel so much pressure to be more of who we think other people would like that we start to become less and less of the people we like.
The thing is, a lot of us do things not because we want to, but because we want other people to know that we did it. The sad truth is, a lot of times we hold other people’s opinions in higher esteem than we hold our own personal opinions and that shouldn’t always be the case.
So, how about figuring out who you are, how about recognising when what you’re putting out into the world is more everyone else than it is you? And then, how about doing things for you?